Nape Sapa
NYC. 🇼🇸🇳🇬🇵🇷writer, Martial Artist, Poet. Lover of life. Looking for inspiration in every experience. Photos tagged Ox
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it’s interesting that many black parents/families deny the existence of mental illness in their children, especially because it’s clear that they themselves are suffering with some deep rooted problems and issues within. they deny the existence of it because they would be forced to not only admit their hand in their children’s mental health, but would also be forced to confront these issues within themselves. and they ain’t ready to handle all that.
stop insulting yourself. it doesn’t help.
But what if it’s true
it still doesn’t help. you can call yourself as many names as you want, but it won’t make you a better, happier, healthier or kinder person.
punishment doesn’t work. only positive reinforcement does. be kind to yourself and get better.
Loving yourself is also learning how to properly love & respect others. They won’t know how to love you if you don’t lead by example. If you respect yourself that will always show through how you treat others.
Now Cyn Santana says she is “afro latina”, “black”…OK
I don’t blame her though, i blame you people that keep letting any racially ambiguous or multi racial latina girl claim that she’s black when it’s convenient.
Girls like her always other themselves or talk about themselves SEPARATE from black girls and they all say they like being in interracial relationships and dating black men… until they say some problematic shit, or someone starts pressing them about their race and ethnicity or they need to make money off of being seen as black… that is when they remember that they are afro latina 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Mschewwww
There is literally a whole video of Cardi, for example, saying that she likes being in interracial relationships with black men and several videos of her before she became famous when she “othered” herself and talk about herself separate from black girls… but all of a sudden, she’s black now because it’s convenient.
Cardi that said from her own mouth that her father is non black Dominican and her mother’s father is white Spanish, Caucasian…
I don’t blame them at all, you people let them do what they do.
Even Veronica Vega had the audacity to say that she was black after she made her ignorant comments about Amara’s afro… OK
Heck, even full white people can identify as black these days when it’s convenient… some don’t even need to do much to be seen as black; people thought Rita Ora was black for years.
It’s like every year, the pool for the images of black women that keep getting pushed on us gets wider and wider…anybody can be black at the snap of a finger, it’s free for all.
I wonder why the pool for the images of black men doesn’t expand as fast.
Is it because many industries can make tons of money off of the most racially ambiguous representation of “black women” they can find?
Is it because some black men want to date those racially ambiguous girls without feeling guilty for dating outside their race, so it’s easier to call those girls black and force everyone to call them black too?
Is it because some black women would rather see racial ambiguity as the definition of blackness to convince themselves that black girls can be beautiful and “exotic too”, do they not see that beauty in visibly black girls?
We will never know 🤷🏾♀️
Black ppl need to stop clinging on to that bullshit 1 drop rule.
Teach girls it’s okay to not want kids. Or even like them.
That they can be functional people without being a mother.
That deciding into their 30s they want kids isnt bad and they’re not “too old.”
Teach girls that they don’t have to sell their youth to kids.
Because motherhood isn’t for everyone. And we need to stop acting like it is.
did u know that you can be both the chubby friend AND the pretty friend bc weight has no bearing on beauty 🐝🐝🐝